So as you all know we have been dealing with some adjustment/attachment related stuff going on around here, I am willing to share what has been going on here...
I hope to be able to have a chance to sit down a write a very REAL view of what we have been experiencing (hopefully in the next couple days)... Of course I am in no way a professional, nor am I even close to being an experienced adjustment/attachment specialist, I just hope that by sharing what we have experienced it may also help someone else either feel very normal, or help see the signs. I will also write the attachment stuff about Ty and one with Tamaya because both of the 2 are soooo unique and different!
So here is hoping I get to it within the next couple days!
Monday, October 29, 2007
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after 2 months home I would not expect Tamaya to be totally attached yet - every day there is something new and totally unfamiliar happening to her - a trip to the mall, looking at houses, meeting new people. It took Douby many months to finally be comfortable with our life. Coming home at an older age is tougher since they have been protected from change for so long. She was in the O from a very young age - she will need a lot more attachment training...Dana took a long time to get Maliya firmly attached and she came home much much younger!
Patience, Patience...
Oh my gosh, we are not even close to being "firmly attached"... and I suspect we have a long road ahead of us. I will talk about what we are going through now and what we are doing etc :-)
I hope my "Keeping it real" post didn't come off as we have been there done that and everything is good to go, 'cause that is furthest from the truth..lol
We are still working on attachment/adoption related stuff with Ty... I suspect it's a lifelong journey that will be dealt with, and come up at different times in my children's life.
no, I understood what you meant! I was just sympathizing...You do have a long road ahead but you are educated on the topic and won't ignore it - so your kids will be fine eventually. Having two possibly feeding off each other's insecurities ain't gonna be easy! Aren't you glad you had the time to take that trauma course before she came home?
Great, can't wait to read your thoughts. Thanks so much for sharing!!
You are doing a great service by sharing your journey in the (uncomfortable) area of attachment. Adoptive parents shouldn't feel disheartened or incompetent by what seems like rejection from their child.
I'm sure your words will reassure and enlighten those of us who are struggling with attachment issues. Thank you for being courageous.
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